Hi and welcome to a quite unusual Mother’s Day 2020.
Mother’s Day has Never Been so Weird!
What a crazy time to be trying to run a church, and minister to your people! So, preaching to an empty church but a load of people in cyberspace, here is Ps Darin’s Mother’s Day message…
Welcome to the craziest Mothers Day ever, set as it were against the background of the corona virus. You can’t see your mum, or touch your mum, but you can zoom her, FaceTime her, Skype her and even telephone her.
I even heard that babies born in this year, in 13 years time will not be called generation X, Y, Z, etc, but quaran-teens.
Today we celebrate mothers. Becoming a mother is a biological process, and it takes only a moment. Being a mother is not so easy, because it is a lifelong commitment for which there is no preparation, no training and often very little help.
One woman’s said, “Before I got married I had 3 theories on how to raise children. Now I have 3 children, and no theories!”
Exodus 20:12 (ESV Strong’s)
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
So today, although we cannot be physically together, I want to honour the mothers here on Mother’s Day, and give you a virtual COVID 19 hug.
Being a great mum is a calling, and God has great plans for you mums. They say, The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. What that means is that mums have a disproportionate and amazing influence on their children, their grandchildren, and hence the whole of society.
2 Timothy 1:5 (ESV Strong’s)
I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well. What w3 deposit with our children and grandchildren lives forever.
MOTHERHOOD- OVERVALUED BUT UNDERPAID
Men, you go out to work and expect to get paid for a job well done. Motherhood has been jointly described as the world’s most underpaid job, or the most highly paid job if you count love and goodwill instead of just money…
Salary.com conducted a survey in 2010 that attempted to place a monetary value on the work of a stay-at-home mom. They determined that if mothers were to be paid for their ten most common tasks in the home (including cleaner, janitor, taxi driver, computer operator, housekeeper, teacher, cook, chief executive officer, psychologist, and facilities manager) they would be paid over $120,000 per annum, much of it overtime.
Milton Berle once quipped, “If evolution is real, how come mothers only have 2 hands!”
To every mum today on Mother’s Day, God has given you an unique calling… You are…
Psalms 127:3 (ESV Strong’s)
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
Mums, you have given birth to and nurtured your children, some fairly recently, some a long time ago. As a grower, you get to see them grow from a tiny baby into mature, and sometimes not so mature, adults.
Yours is the great challenge, and the great joy of seeing potential realised. But the challenge is, while you may have dreams of what you’re growing, you don’t actually know what you’re growing! If a farmer plants wheat, he gets wheat. If he plants corn, he doesn’t get cucumbers, he gets corn.
But mums, you could be growing a prime minister, or a doctor, or a pastor, or another mum, or you could be growing C criminal, a drug dealer or possibly even worse, a politician. You have no idea, right? For this you have to trust God and obey His directions, and when you do you need to trust Him for the fruit of your labours.
As many of you have found out, in this Corona virus pandemic, you’ve all suddenly been elected teachers! But mum, you’ve always been a teacher…
Proverbs 1:8 (ESV Strong’s)
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching,
At the other end of proverbs, the excellent, praiseworthy wife is describes like this…
Proverbs 31:26 (ESV Strong’s)
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
So mums, we honour you today for your teaching, and pearls of wisdom, like…
Silence is golden, unless you have kids… Then it’s suspicious
Parenting tip- If you don’t know where your kids are in the house, turn off the internet and watch them magically appear
Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shovelling the sidewalk before it stops snowing.” —Phyllis Diller
“I want my children to have all the things I couldn’t afford. Then I want to move in with them.”
Isaiah 66:13 (ESV Strong’s)
As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you;
Whether it’s a skinned knee, a shattered dream, a broken heart or compulsory isolation, great mums are there to comfort you. Even if they felt their mums never comforted them, great mums still comfort those they love.
Even today at my age my mother is able to advise me, and I listen. Why? Because she has earned the right to speak into my life, and that’s what great mums do on Mother’s Day.
Proverbs 22:6 (ESV Strong’s)
Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Mothers, like it or not, tend to have advice on everything. Now we all know the kind of advice mothers give, but I found a list of things you will likely never hear your mother say…
“Just leave all the lights on…it makes the house look more cheery.”
“Let me smell that shirt—Yeah, it’s good for another week.”
“Go ahead and keep that stray dog, honey. I’ll be glad to feed and walk him every day.”
“I know I said no, but if Timmy’s mom says it’s OK, that’s good enough for me.”
“Come home when you like, the curfew is just a general time to shoot for. It’s not like I’m running a prison around here.”
“I don’t have a tissue with me…just use your sleeve.”
How many of you know that, when facing choices in your life, many times your mother’s advice comes to mind. So mums, be careful what you advise your children, because they take it all in, even if they don’t appear to act upon it.
Proverbs 31:26 (ESV Strong’s)
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Mothers, you have wisdom this Mother’s Day. It might be worldly wisdom from beneath, or it might be godly wisdom from above. As mums, you want to give the right wisdom to your kids.
ERMA BOMBECK said
When your mother asks, “Do you want a piece of advice?” it’s a mere formality. It doesn’t matter if you answer yes or no. You’re going to get it anyway.
Many great people, from Abraham Lincoln to Michael Jordon to Liza Minnelli attribute their success to advice their mums gave them.
Great mums realise that they don’t own their children, they steward them. Many of you older mums are at this point right now. You bring children up the best you can, maybe teach them all about the Lord, but at some point you need to let them go, and they make their own choices, many of which you may not agree with.
I don’t agree with all the decisions my kids make, but I make sure my disagreement never diminishes how much I love them. One of the fallacies of our modern world is that people say if you love me you’ll let me. Listen, you can love someone and still disagree with them.
Mothers, you need to be stewards of your kids, then release them to the Lord. Samuel’s mother, Hannah, who had waited so long for a child, prayer so fervently for a child, when she had her first she dedicated him to God…
1 Samuel 1:27-28 (ESV Strong’s)
For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him. Therefore I have lent him to the Lord. As long as he lives, he is lent to the Lord.”
Mothers, many of your hearts are breaking for kids gone astray, kids who have rejected Christ. 2 things, first stop blaming yourself. At some point your children make their own decision, and it’s not your fault. But secondly, never stop praying and believing for your children!
A mother’s prayer has saved many a soul, so whatever you do, never give up on your children this Mother’s Day. Never stop praying for your children…
1 John 5:14-15 (ESV Strong’s)
And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.
Mothers, your prayers are powerful and I know myself, when I was rebelling against my parents, I believe it was the prayers of my mother that kept me from harm and brought me back to God.
The prayer of mothers protect their children. Augustine, John and Charles Wesley, Hudson Taylor, Billy Graham and many other great men who changed the world for Christ had praying mothers.
And finally, never stop believing for your children.
Galatians 6:9 (ESV Strong’s)
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
Mums want to believe in you, Mother’s Day and every other day, whether you believe in you or not. Mums see the good in their children, even if no one else does.
For example, Hitler’s mum Klara took him to church and wanted him to be a civil servant. Napoleon’s mum was married at 13 and accompanied him into exile on the island of Elba. Osama Bin Laden’s mum wanted him to stop fighting the west and come home to Saudi like a good boy. Donald Trump described his mum as smart as hell and he said he’s had trouble finding women to marry who compared to his her!
I read about Ted Bundy’s mother Louise, who loved her son so much that she refused to believe he was a killer, until a series of death row confessions of 36 murders put the matter beyond doubt. These mums saw the best in their children even when others saw them as tyrants and killers.
Mums believe in us when others give up on us. Mums always want the best for their kids and grandkids, as I bet every mum listening to this message does.
So mums, we honour you this day, in the midst of the greatest crisis most of us have known in our lifetimes, we honour you mums, and I ask you mums, please don’t give up on your kids, no matter how bad you might think they have become.
One of the greatest church fathers in history owed his ministry and life to his mother’s faithfulness…
St Augustine’s mother was a godly woman who lived around 350AD. She loved her wayward son, and the young Augustine lived with a girl and had an illegitimate child, then followed this by joining a heretical sect for 9 long years. He refused to listen to her, and she was so distraught she prayed and prayed and God gave her a dream that settled her heart, and then a mother’s faith checked in.
A short time after the dream Augustine came to Christ, and became one of the most significant church fathers of his generation! He was once lost, but then through a mother’s faith and love, he was found.
My mother was a believer for me too! She believed that the Lord would use me, even when I was wandering far from His ways, and she prayed and believed even when I had hurt her and when she was discouraged! Honour to her this Mother’s Day.
Lord Shaftesbury was correct in his famous utterance, “Give me a generation of Christian mothers, and I will undertake to change the whole face of society in twelve months.”
MUM, YOU’RE PRICELESS!
Let me finish by reading you the words of a Tammy Wynette song from 1974
My little girl came into the kitchen this evenin’,
While I was fixin’ supper,
And she handed me a piece of paper she’d been writin’ on,
And after wipin’ my hands on my apron,
I read it – and this is what it said:
For mowin’ the yard – five dollars,
And for makin’ my own bed this week – one dollar,
And for goin’ to the store – fifty cents,
An’ playin’ with little sister, while you went to the store – twenty-five cents,
Takin’ out the trash – one dollar,
Gettin’ a good report card – five dollars,
And for rakin’ the yard – two dollars,
Total owed – fourteen dollars and seventy-five cents.
Well, I looked at her standin’ there expectantly,
And a thousand mem’ries flashed through my mind,
So I picked up the pen, turnin’ the paper over,
This is what I wrote:
For the nine months I carried you,
Growin’ inside me – NO CHARGE,
For the nights I’ve sat up with you,
Doctored you, prayed for you – NO CHARGE,
For the toys, food and clothes.
And for wiping your nose, there’s NO CHARGE,
When you add it all up.
The full cost of my love is NO CHARGE.
Well, when she finished readin’,
She had great big old tears in her eyes,
And she looked up at me and said,
“Mama, I sure do love you.”
Then she took the pen,
And in great big letters,
She wrote: “PAID IN FULL.”
When you add it all up,
The cost of real love is – NO CHARGE
We can learn that lesson from Jesus. He laid His life down for you and for me, and the cost of real love was simply this… NO CHARGE.
You can’t buy salvation, and you can’t earn it. This Mother’s Day and every day, Jesus love and sacrifice is freely given… NO CHARGE.
Whether you are a mum today, or a child, you can have the opportunity to accept Jesus Christ as your Saviour. It’s a gift, it’s at no charge, but it’s a life changing event.
Mums, you need Jesus to be the mother He’s called you to be. And some of you children, you’ve broken you mum’s heart long enough! It’s time to ask Jesus into your life, it’s time to make your mother’s prayers be answered!
John 3:16 (ESV Strong’s)
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.